Mar 30, 2016 3 min read

Q.My mom had a heart attack. My dad said he doesn’t know when she’ll come home from the hospital. Is there any way I can help? I heard about someone giving another person a kidney. Can I give my mom my heart?

– 7-year-old

Mary Jo’s response: You are a very brave and caring young person. No, you cannot give your mom your heart. Each person has only one heart; we need our hearts to stay alive since they pump blood through our bodies.

Each person has two kidneys, so it is possible to donate one kidney to another individual.

I’d like you to promise me a few things:

• Please talk with your dad right away. Tell him your feelings. Share your fears about your mom. You’re worried about her health. If children are silent about their feelings, trusted adults may not know their concerns.

• Find others who can support you. An older sibling, a grandparent, an aunt or uncle – anyone in your family can spend time with you. Do you attend a house of worship? A faith leader can offer comfort. Have you spoken with your teacher at school? Your teacher and your school guidance counselor can help you.

• Create cards for your mom. Ask your dad to bring them to her. Write about your love for her. Tell her about your days at school. Draw her pictures.

• When it’s possible, ask to visit your mom.

• When your mom comes home from the hospital, she may need to make some lifestyle changes. Help her eat healthy. Exercise with her. Show her your love by your actions.

• Help with the family. If you have younger siblings, explain things to them patiently. Don’t frighten them. Play games with them and help keep the house tidy.

• Focus on good things. Work hard in school, hang out with friends, and help your family. Your mom will be proud of you.

Many people get better after heart attacks and live long, productive, lives. If you’re interested in more information on heart health, ask your dad to help you check out http://kidshealth.org/en/kids/heart-disease.html. He can explain anything confusing. Good luck to you and your mom.

I received the above question from the child’s older sibling, a student of mine. The older sibling asked me to put the question in this column. He was overwhelmed by his brother’s willingness to sacrifice.

When I receive a question, I respond privately to the questioner as soon as possible. I then obtain permission to use the question.

I’m pleased to report this child is doing well, and his mother’s health is improving.