Dec 19, 2015 2 min read

Q. I used to look forward to my birthday, anniversary and Valentine’s Day, but now I dread them. My husband is gift-challenged.

I have been married to “Dennis” for four years. We are pretty happy, but both admittedly stubborn and set in our ways. We married later in life. We are in our 60s and don’t have much money, although we get by. The only time we have fought was about gifts.

I don’t expect much from Dennis. I am not a materialistic person. We live simply and humbly. Family and friends are more important than things. I don’t care about designer labels or car brands. But it bothers me terribly that he doesn’t even try to mark a special day with something special: flowers, a romantic card or a nice dinner out. The best he’s done is to make me a card on his computer and get me a rose at the supermarket, but he does it grudgingly.

Am I asking too much? My friends know better than to ask how any special occasion was because they know how unhappy I am about this. How do I handle my disappointment? – Thanks for Listening

A. It is unlikely that Dennis will suddenly become the romantic, thoughtful guy you are looking for. If this is the worst of his faults, consider yourself lucky. The best way to handle gift disappointment is to do what women have done for decades: Get your own flowers and presents, and write on the card, “All my love, Dennis.” When you open the present, gush to him how wonderful it is and how much you love him for thinking of you. He will either get the hint and do something about it, or he won’t. Either way, you’ll get more considerate gifts on your special days.

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